Valentines Day.

In a couple of  days it’s the 14^th of Feb, celebrated as Valentine’s Day(I do think its a Marketing gimmick but thats topic for another blog)- A day of LOVE, although to me everyday is about Love.  It’s the glue that holds everything together.  I am amazed that it is the one theme that has- everyone, everywhere, no matter what their upbringing, culture or nature - twittering.  Most any famous poet/author  has a bunch of verses written about Love. Each different yet Moving, Touching, Making us aware of the emotion  that is a common thread amongst the seemingly different and separate us.   I am no different, I have used it as a theme many times.

 

For the past 3 months I have been on a Reading Binge- one of the books I have just started reading(I havent finished it yet) is “The Mastery of love” by Don Miguel Ruiz. He talks of Love as I envision it, the kind that is airy, with lots of room to breathe, grow and be.  I thought it would be good to share some of his   words with you. As I read this book, like most self-help books, it’s a re-enforcement of things I am still trying to get right(although I think that’s because I cant accept that perfection is an ideal).   I am convinced that any change can only happen if I change the way I see and do things around and within me.  That I cant go around and change everything that doesn’t look right to me in this world, but I can change the way I look at it or feel about it.  Here are some of his words… I am setting it to friends only because I wasn’t able to find any of his words on the web except for one of the paragraphs. I don’t know what the copyright rules entail but I wanted to share bits that I think is useful in our lives, if attention is drawn to it.

 

“You have to focus on the most wonderful relationship you can have: the relationship with yourself. It is not about being selfish; it’s about self-love. These are not the same”

 

“You are complete. When love is coming out of you, you are not searching for love because you are afraid to be alone.  When you have all that love for yourself, you can be alone and there’s no problem.  You are happy to be alone, and to share is also fun.”

 

“The problem with humans is that they don't know they have a magical kitchen (wherein, you can have any food you want, from any place in any quantity, without limitation or restriction) in their heart. A long time ago, we closed our hearts and we can no longer feel the love that is in there. At some point, we became afraid, because love isn't fair. Love hurts. Then we become selfish and close our hearts tightly. It isn't safe to love, we believe. Then in a relationship, there is a war for control. What we call love-someone who needs me, who cares about me-isn't love; it is selfishness. How can that work? Then we search for advice on love and sex. Yet, there is nothing to learn about love. Everything is already there, in our genes, in our nature. We don't have to learn anything except what we invent in this world of illusion. We search for love outside ourselves when love is all around us. Love is everywhere, but we don't have the eyes to see. Our emotional body is no longer tuned to love. People are starving for love, not knowing their heart is a magical kitchen. Your heart is a magical kitchen. Open your heart. Open your magical kitchen and refuse to walk around the world begging for love. In your heart is all the love you need. Your heart can create any amount of love, not just for yourself, but for the whole world. When we know that our heart is a magical kitchen, we are always generous and our love is completely unconditional.”

 

“Relationship is an art. The dream that two create is more difficult to master than one. To keep the two of you happy, you have to keep your Half perfect.  You are responsible for your half, and your half has a certain amount of garbage. Your garbage is your garbage.  The one who has to deal with that garbage is you, not your partner. If you partner tries to clean your garbage, she is going to end up with a broken nose.  We have to learn not to put our nose where no one wants it”

 

“If you cannot love your partner the way she is, someone else can love her just as she is. Don’t waste your time, and don’t waste your partner’s time.  This is respect.”

 

“See what is in front of you; don’t be blind or pretend to see what is not there. Don’t deny what you see just to get the merchandise when that merchandise will not fit your needs.  When you buy something you don’t need, it ends up in the garage.  It’s the same with relationship.”

 

“Perhaps you already have a certain amount of time invested in a relationship. If you choose to keep going, you can still have a new beginning by accepting and loving your partner just as she is. But first you will need to take a step back. You have to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are. Only by loving and accepting yourself the way you are can you truly be and express what you are.”

 

I want to let you all know I feel honoured to have you all grace my cyber-life.  Thank you for sharing snippets of your life with me.  Thank you for the laughs, your encouraging words, funny comments and knowing that you share.

 

May this Valentines Day help you all focus on the Primary Step to Love : Self-love. Happy Valentines Day!