Random thought of the day - The Key to Harmonious Life is Honesty unto yourself.
They say that when you are drunk or when you are angry, you say the things that you have held in your core self. I know this, because I have lived with the drunk and the perpetually angry. Don't Ever say, "I didn't Mean it" after you are sober or not angry anymore; For in the final analysis, if you really cared about the person or cared about the relationship you share with this person, even in the drunkenness and anger you will care enough to temper what you say. Most times after you are sober, you will worry about the consequences of what you said, which is why you give yourself the excuse "I didn't mean it". Don't come back to me after you betray my trust and give me non-sense like "It just happened" cause in my eyes, nothing really happens, you lead yourself up to it. No event happens in itself, there are always indicators, its just a matter of you seeing it, acknowledging it and deciding what action you are going to take. Yes, we slip up. Yes, we are surprised by results because we forgot to be aware every moment, we excuse it as "being human" but it never late to correct it. If you don't correct it then you will push yourself into a vicious cycle of lies, where you will tell yourself more lies to justify the previous lies. Soon you can't tell the difference between a lie and a truth. This will reflect on the outside too. This is when other people will begin to view you as a person lacking in Integrity. You see, it didn't start with them accusing you as such a person, but by you letting yourself become that person. Their accusations will offend you, cause within you, you are annoyed that they know your secret.
And no, I am not trying to be righteous here, I am only trying to give you my view on why being honest with yourself is important. It is more important than being honest with those outside of you. To someone outside of you, you can always say "I can't/wont/don't want to tell you" and walk away. But how are you going to walk away from yourself? Drugs, liquor, one night stands, other forms of entertainment will give a respite from acknowledging what you are. But, you are the only person you are with 24/7, so its only logical to make yourself comfortable with you, keep yourself clean inside and out. Honesty is like the cleaner. In Being honest with yourself, you learn to behave better, cause only when you are honest can you see what needs improvement within yourself and work for it. That is the way you grow into that person you want to be, that someone you can look in the eye no matter what, without regret, guilt or shame. When we live in that zone of comfort within ourselves, we are comfortable with others around us. That is what Harmony means, to be in comfort with yourself and the surroundings.
Peace always,
Mithuna
Note to self : Be more aware of what you do at all times, that way you can be more honest with yourself, and live in Harmony.
P. S. Thank you Timberghost, your question made me think enough to write this out.
