Good morning/Evening to all you wonderful folks who are listening in today. I hope you have all had a fantastic Monday. Mine has just begun and as usual I have a Monday Morning Moan for you.
I was reading Tracy's Post this morning and I thought about how I seem to receive messages when I need it the most or when I need re-enforcing my goals.
Here's the message on her Blog
http://stillwandering.multiply.com/reviews/item/712
I am, for most purposes a Practical Person, at least, I like to think so. There is this portion where Practicality abandons me. My life is riddled with details... I have a tendency for Perfection and so I hone in on the details. When someone tells me this has to be done. My thoughts arent about getting it done, it goes to how it has to be done, what that entails, how to get the littlest detail done with finesse', what could be the obstacles and how to encounter it that and at the end of all my thoughts, it takes so long to get it done that I lose my motivation to get it done. I need an assistant to come in and do it while I make out what details need taken care off. Whatever I am familiar with I can get done with minimum annoyance cause I have done it before and now have what I consider the best way to get it done, but something NEW, well, thats another story.
It does limit what I would do and what I wouldnt...When I look back I think "What on earth was I thinking?" cause in that later time, I am no more emotionally invested so I can actually look at it objectively and see all the critical mistakes I made. Hindsight always being 20/20.
My husband on the other hand (this has been the point of my envy) is the kind that takes in the BIG Picture. He cant/wont be bothered with details and he is the Doer while I am the perpetual Thinker whose thinking never ends...So here's an example of how we work. When we used to look for a place to stay(given we had to move around a few times due to his job) he will look at whether the place is worth the money and if it satisfies our need in terms of reasonable distance from work and a safe locality to live in, while I look at stuff like how far is the nearest school and store, how does the house smell, how does the house feel as I walk in, does the Kitchen have a gas stove, are the faucets leaking, are the rooms big enough to accommodate the people/furniture I presently have, which way are the doors and windows facing within the home, do those allow light to come in, do they have a working mesh to keep the insects out, are the mechanical stuff in working condition, what kind of accessories are used, what colour the walls are etc.. at the end of a seeing a house, I would be talking all about how it felt, what its pluses are, what needs work, what needs to be looked into and what its flaws are and my husband would have just one sentence - I liked/or didnt like the place and its affordable/not affordable. I must have been a weaver bird in my previous birth, I need to know where every reed goes in the weave while my husband will look at the nest and go, Yes! or No Way! I wish I could be like him, my life would have been absolute bliss.
So, over these two years, its been my on-going effort to let go of the details and do things. Just do it without an expectation of how it should be done. Move with it as it happens. I have succeeded a few times. Its come to light that when it comes to letting go of my expectations for the illusionary Perfection, I am a slow student.
Have a wonderful Day in spite of my Moan Folks.
This is Rashmi Reporting for Monday Morning Moans.
15 comments:
What a great partnership .. You both come to the same place in a unique dance. I am a bit like you both .. I know what I want.. but must entertain every detail before beginning something... but once I begin I will finish it exactly as I planned it.. not really considering the effort I will spend .. but as if finally beginning a journey .. I have a goal.. and the journey is each step enjoyed for the pleasure of the appetite.. Each bite is but a taste of a finished product.. delicious in that pride and accomplishment take this road. And the end product is the reward.
Jackie, Yes, the product is a joy and reward although it takes as LONG as it takes for me. I tell him its not how much time, its how well its done and he tells me I work like as I am building a Palace and constantly adding new wings to it. :P
that was a lovely post!
i'm more like ur husband, rashmi, i take quick decisions based on instinct. my husband is more like you, he thinks things through, he's a perfectionist. once upon a time, i used to think and worry a lot more...but since we met, i think i've become lazy, i can't even be bothered to change a light bulb til he gets home! i figured that since he likes to do so much thinking, let him do it! it makes my life a lot easier! the only time i over-analyze is when it comes to family, people i love. that gets 100% of my attention.... other decisions like which house to purchase, which car to buy, etc. i don't really worry about it. but then again, maybe that will change once the kids come! i'm just enjoying the carefree honeymoon now.
Has it got hiding places ? ..;)
It's always perfect ~ perfectly in line with where we are at in the moment :)
LOL many.. and completely cluttered too :P
Yes, I keep reminding myself of that, doesnt seem to stick in my head for long.:)
Enjoy the carefree feel... things do change when the kids come, its a different kind of thinking but you could also be the kid with them and you still have that carefree feeling.:)
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww scary!! the more I read you the more i recognise myself, I also get a husband who will just go and do it! i also admire him for that (when I am not preocupied that he might be making a mistake for moving too fast)
Sounds like you and your husband fit well together. What a grand thing, to have a dancing partner who does not step on your toes ;).
I affirm to myself daily that good things will come my way. I do not know the details, but I have faith the results will occur if I just do the footwork, try to stay in and enjoy the present moment, and jump out the window if the door closes. Faith will keep my from falling too hard, I figure.
I do get that forest for the trees syndrome at times and blindside myself. But I put on the coffee, regroup, and it seems life unfolds like it should.
It's good you have an agreed way of doing things.
I am not sure if you are aware of one recent profession in building industry under facilities management. Thats is "Snag specialist". The job description goes like this.......Once you book a villa or apartment.......and before you take over the that, you appoint a specialist.He will list out all the snags in the building, which needs to be rectified by the builder before handing over. It is slowly picking up in India. After reading your detailed description, I am sure you have great future in that area!!!!!!!LOL
LOL, Coffee is a cure for all ills :P
Madhavan, I never thought of such an opportunity.. Man! thats such a great business Idea.. A Snag Specialist :P. This could be my Lottery.
Josie - Mine doesnt hurry, just knows how to get it done within a reasonable amount of time.
Giles - yes, its a good thing to have....although I wish he'd say more instead of those One Liners.
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